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A friend of mine has had this mad crush on a colleague of his for over a year. Shes all he talks about. How beautiful she looks, how talented and articulate she is. They both love mountain biking and even share the same fondness for the same red wines. Theyre close in age and have similar professional backgrounds. Sounds like a perfect match doesnt it?
But he wont even ask her out on a real date. Why? Because Shes out of my league! he always whimpers pitifully.
Now she most certainly is. Over a year has gone by and hes never made a move on her. Worse, hes now put himself in that awful hell known as being a guy friend. Men are almost never able to claw themselves out from that frozen wasteland.
Once a woman looks at you as being just a friend, its all over. You could sleep right next to her in the same bed and not get any action. You HAVE to make your intentions known right from the beginning. If you like a woman, then act like a man and let her know that youre attracted to her! Dont beat around the bush. Dont take her out to Starbucks and tell her how sensitive and sweet you are. Act like a man, not a timid boy!
Ask her out on a DATE right from the beginning. Let her know that youre interested in Her, and its not a platonic interest. Often times women will be attracted to a new man theyve just met. But if that guy doesnt make a move, eventually shell doubt his masculinity and move on.
If hes a real man with male interests and needs, then why isnt he making a move on me? shell think to herself. Maybe hes gay? Or possibly hes just scared of women?
Then shell move on and youll be stuck in friendship hell forever. Worse, you wont even realize how you put yourself in that position, and the situation will repeat itself ad infinitum until you either find a woman that will settle for you, or you lower your standards significantly.
As far as my poor chump of a friend above, the object of his desire was never out of his league. He just built her up on a pedestal in his own mind. He let his own insecurities and doubts cloud his mind which made her appear to be unwinnable.
No woman is ever out of your league! Of course some guys will have more success than others. But if an average looking guy asked out 100 super models, at least one of them would say yes! You can improve that average with experience, and by developing real confidence in yourself.
Dont settle for less than you deserve in life, and never doubt yourself! We have enough obstacles in life without turning ourselves into one.
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