Reasons why breaking up isn't really hard to do
Couples who cant stand each other even for just one day have the courtesy to put a very understated reason on the divorce papers, irreconcilable differences. Currently not in a relationship right now, or married for that matter, but I had my unfair share of heartaches through my years on this life. Maybe there are people who are cut off for a coupled life, while some are destined to love solitude for all time. Enough about me. Lets admit it, even how painful and soul-wrenching a split up is, at the end of the day, a single nerve in our brain transmits a message that it was all for best, that you had to be apart from that person and that you are a little relieved and one day, well wake up with bouncing smiles. But then again, regret is something well all feel along the way because the happy ever part is over, at least with that person. So, what drives couples to breaking up madness? But before you go on, I have a disclaimer, Im talking about men and women in general, so, it doesnt mean that if youre a man that youre guilty of these things, same goes for women. Well, if you are guilty, then, thats your story. 1. Men dont apologize while women cant let go Generally, this is the case why relationships falter. Men tend to talk little and just keep quiet and dont want talks that last more than at least five minutes. On the other hand, women tend to hold on to a lot of stuff. All of us can shut up for a while but when something triggers the emotions, we burst in a way that men cant stand the tension anymore. Maybe both can just make way for each other, you know, men can say sorry not only with gifts but with a little apologetic speech as well, while women can let little things go as long as they have been resolved. 2. Couples tend to focus on the negative We are all guilty of this. Unfortunately, there comes a time that we unconsciously turn a blind eye to the good things and concentrate on the bad for it is better to cite the bad ones, to some extent. Maybe we can all go back to the dating days when appreciate the little yet sweetest thing our partners do for us. 3. Bad timing This is something that is inevitable. Its like were busy all the time and cant be disturbed. Maybe we can be more intimate by hugging each other more. Hugging increases oxytoxin, the happy hormone. That way, timing wont be a problem anymore. I mean, theres really no good timing. A bad news will always be bad news, same goes for the good ones. 4. Partners either talk too much or too little Looks like theres never balance, isnt it? But then again, we can never talk moderately right? Maybe the key is to solve this is to let each other talk first instead of talking simultaneously like theres no tomorrow. Eye openers Ah, maybe stones will be thrown instead of bread. When all these things happen, breaking up isnt that hard to do and the easiest road to travel. It all depends to the situation. Have posted the reasons not to point blame but to open realizations and learn from them. In the end, let's all love one another to achieve world peace.
About the Author: Started as an assistant editor of a small publishing company and worked her way up to the corporate ladder and become one of the editors. Currently, she edits autobiographies of broadway stars & has edited a thousand books from learning materials to pocketbooks to novels that were transcribed from movies or novels made into movies. Currenytly, she maintains a blog entitled, life in my not so parallel universe.
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